Stage 1. You recognize that there is a problem, that it’s serious and that you could die if you don’t face up to it.
Stage 2. You decide to do something about it and reach out for help.
Stage 3. You realize that an eating disorder is not a genetic, biological or chemical problem. Is it the result of habitual thought processes that began in childhood and can be undone with dedication and hard work on your part. Moving past the mindset that you are somehow predisposed to an eating disorder is one of the first major steps to recovery.
Stage 4. You begin to learn how to change the thoughts that are causing you to feel so bad about yourself.
Stage 5. You begin to make changes to your life that improve your self esteem. This could mean changing where you live, who you live with, your job, taking up a new hobby, anything that makes you feel good and in control of your life.
Stage 6. You notice that by making changes in your life, you begin to meet people who treat you more positively. This lifts you. You feel more confident and able to take on new challenges.
Stage 7. As you move forward and become more accepting of yourself, you actually begin to like yourself. You find that you are objectifying yourself less and less, thinking of yourself in terms of size and weight less and less. Obsessing about food less and less. You are beginning to enjoy life and to see yourself as an integral part of the world.
Stage 8. You feel more and more able to stand up for yourself and more able to see other’s negativity as their problem and not yours. You stop lying down and taking it. You are able to see clearly and neutrally, are aware that others do not always have their own or your best interests at heart…and you are able to walk away.
Stage 9. As you see the positive effect that you have on others, you develop an increasing desire to be of service to others. You understand what it feels like to be in pain but you are free from it yourself. You have learned how to fulfill your own needs and are now in a position to help others to do so too.
Stage 10. Life is a journey. It’s not a case of being ill or being well. Everybody is ill and well to one extent or another. There is no such thing as perfect in the societal sense of the word but in the true sense of perfection we are all perfect. You have come to this realization and understand the inherent perfection of everything. Life is constantly changing. We are constantly changing. When we are not emotionally stable we find this change very hard to cope with. We feel like standing still is the safest option. It never is. Standing still is stagnation. When we are unhappy we stagnate. When we are joyful, we move forward…realizing this means that we can accept life’s ups and downs as challenges rather than defeats or wins. We see clearly that life is a journey of constant growth and sometimes that growth is painful, but unlike the eating disordered person that we were, we can really see the light at the end of the tunnel….
Well done for getting here! Namaste.